Posted April 27, 2012 by Stephen Daniels in Marriage
 
 

Couples Counseling Can Help You and Your Spouse Save Your Marriage After Infidelity


In a perfect world they might not be required, but as it is, Las Vegas couples counseling practitioners are in high demand. In that city and elsewhere, struggling marriages are an all-too common circumstance. A major culprit in struggling unions is adultery. Particularly these days, when most people are on Facebook or engaging in some kind of online socializing, putting more stock in a digital relationship than one does into their own marriage is an evergrowing reality. Infidelity, however, doesn’t have to spell the end of a marriage. Whether that is the best approach or not, relationship counseling can help heal the wound or enable two people to part as respectfully and cordially as possible.

One statistic frequently bandied about is that 50% of all marriages in this country end in divorce. While this is true in general, we have to look at additional factors like age and whether it’s a first, second or third marriage. For example, only 5-6% of marriages between people ages 35 to 39 end in divorce when compared with 35-40% of marriages when the individuals are 20 to 24 years of age.

Social networking is a contributing factor in this high rate, particularly for younger individuals. It’s easy to drive a wedge between a couple when there are so many comforting and supportive (virtual) friends to be made. This is not to criticize social media sites, but to emphasize the importance of creating and maintaining trust and communication within a marital partnership. A psychologist can help with this.

Infidelity can destroy a marriage as well as mask other potentially hidden issues hiding in a person’s mind. Afterwards, the partner who was cheated on may feel hurt, angry, vengeful, depressed, etc. The person may wish to attempt to save the marriage or may choose to end it. In either case, couples counseling helps people sort out the issues and ease the transition.

When addressing infidelity, a couples counselor is better than an individual therapist or psychiatrist. They are specially trained to fully explore the issues that steer people to cheat rather than skim the surface. Relationship counseling works in stages:

•During the trauma stage, the betrayed spouse and the offender experience a whirlwind of emotions and perhaps physical symptoms of depression

•Discovering and speaking about what led to the affair is the next stage. It is still emotional and psychologically stressful, but both parties are able to speak more clearly

•After the issues are known, working on them is the following and perhaps lengthiest period of counseling. Emotions are more controllable, and this is where people decide to work to save the marriage or end it amicably

Although it depends on the couple, this process often lasts up to two years. If both people involved want to save the union, the time commitment required is a small price to pay. Relationships can be saved after adultery, but this takes communication, complete honesty, and a great deal of hard work. While healing a marriage after infidelity is one element of a counselor’s work, Las Vegas relationship counseling can benefit strong marriages as well. In a healthy marriage, each spouse knows how to listen and effectively defuse conflict, and understands and values their spouse’s opinions and feelings. By helping to reinforce these positives, a marriage will only grow stronger.

Finding a recognized, specially trained couples or relationship counselor might take a little research, but they’re out there. Feeling confident with the therapist is incredibly important, so select wisely. It just may be the smartest choice you ever make.

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Author Stephen Daniels highly recommends the expertise of Las Vegas couples counseling professional Dr. Ron Zedek for marriage and couples counseling. Dr. Zedek brings more than 12 years experience in treating mental health issues to Las Vegas.


Stephen Daniels